Am I Attractive?!

By Erin Lin on December 15, 2014

Are you attractive? I mean, do you think that you look pretty darn good without the validation of the opposite sex? Or maybe the same sex?

http://www.citelighter.com/science/psychology/knowledgecards/attractiveness

And don’t give me the whole beauty is in the eye of the beholder stuff. When I’m talking about attractive, I’m not calling on your pure, virtuous soul and your generous heart. Forget that stuff. If you didn’t understand me properly the first time, what I’m trying to ask you is, do you think you are physically good looking? You can nod your head for yes or shake your head for no. Go on. I’ll let you think about it.

http://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/the-good-life-how-do-men-see-themselves/

We really and I mean really like to make ourselves feel better by stretching the definition on what being attractive is. Do you have a nice personality? Attractive. Do you know how to dress and carry yourself in public? Attractive. Are you good with your words and can charm your way through pretty much anything? Attractive. Are you skilled in the arts or play the piano, trumpet, saxophone, violin and banjo simultaneously? HOT.

But let’s be a little honest here. Not everyone is born attractive and in order to make things a little fair in the game of life, we allow things like personality and character to come into play when addressing someones attractiveness.

I look like a hot mess and honestly, some people rock that look, but I think everyone has to privately come to terms with how they look. Pictures don’t flatter me, makeup can be a chore, clothes definitely don’t fit me the way they do on other people and why on Earth does my skin not look like freaking Beyoncé’s?

http://www.therealbest.com/items/di/502?title=Beyonce-&b=98

Every boy and every girl has had to look in the mirror and ask themselves, “am I attractive? Am I sexy? Do I look handsome or cute or pretty? What do I have to do to be attractive? Will this face make Joseph Gordon Levitt do a double take? Will this hair make Jessica Alba want to run her fingers through it?”

http://www.fanpop.com/clubs/joseph-gordon-levitt/images/6195158/title/new-joseph-shoot-photo

Probably not.

I’m not saying you’re ugly. You might be. You might not. I don’t know. You’re reading this. Not me.

I’m not saying I’m a bombshell. Lord knows that’d be the joke of the day. I’m saying we need to stop putting all this emphasis on everyone being attractive. We want to be nice and say nice things to everyone without hurting people’s feelings so we say things like, “she’s beautiful on the inside” or “he has an amazing personality.”

It’s fine to not be pretty or handsome or cute or whatever. Not everyone is. Attractiveness should not be important enough for us to want to fake it ’till we make it.

We put so much worth on how we look that being called ugly is horrifying and we’re terrified of being unattractive. I am not attractive. Maybe at face value I’m not the sexiest woman around, but I can write a mean article and put some pretty cool Google images on it.

Now that is hot.

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